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How to pick the perfect groomsmen for your wedding

by Liz Gatherer

The best man or the best woman? The bridesmaids or the groomsmen? You will have to answer these questions sooner or later when picking the right members for your wedding party. But once you figure it out, it’s so much easier. After all, you want to choose people who will be fun, friendly, and helpful when the big day finally arrives. 

But who are these people? If you are like most grooms, you might not know the answer to that question yourself. And that’s okay. It’s not easy to think about all the different roles people will have on your special day. You need to ask the right questions and do your research. If you are looking for the perfect groomsmen, keep reading to find out how to choose the best men for your wedding.

What to Look For When Choosing a Groomsman

There are a few traits that you want to look for in a groomsman when deciding who will be a part of your special day. Some of the most important things to keep in mind are how the groomsman interacts with others, their sense of humour, and their ability to be helpful.

  • Communication: A great asset to any wedding party is someone who is a talented communicator. Someone who can genuinely communicate with everyone, including the wedding couple, can be a great asset on your special day. 
  • People Skills: It’s not just about talking to everyone; it’s about talking to the right people at the right time. You want your groomsmen to know how to talk to the bridesmaids, the parents of the wedding couple, and any other members of the wedding party. 
  • Manners: Every time. No exceptions. You don’t want anyone stepping on your toes when you have a job to do. You want your groomsmen to be considerate of others and treat everyone with respect.
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The dinner groomsmen

If you are having a dinner wedding, your groomsmen will be the men who sit at the table with you for the meal. They will likely be the main course of conversation at the table but also need to be able to keep a conversation going with the groom and his groomsmen.

Wedition Hot Tip: introduce your groomsmen to your wedding guests by having a personalised wedding magazine made, the guests will love reading the who's who of the wedding party, how each member knows the bride or the groom, include their photos, a thank you to them and a funny story!

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The dance groomsmen

One of the best parts about weddings is letting loose and having some fun. So one of the responsibilities of the groomsmen is to keep the dancing going in the middle of the reception. They will likely be the people to lead the wedding party in line dancing or freestyle dance and keep the whole crowd moving with them.

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The alcohol groomsmen

This is an essential part of the groomsmen! Of course, you want your groomsmen to be responsible enough to drink alcohol in moderation and not become a problem later on, but you also want them to have a good time and enjoy themselves.

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Summing up

So there you have it. A perfect wedding party is a balancing act between the four roles of Best Man, Groomsmen, Groomsmen, and Groomsmen. You want your group to be able to carry on conversations, keep the event organised, and be able to keep a drink (or two) while still having a great time. They’re also going to have to help with outfits, wedding ties, the works. 

It’s important to remember that each group will likely have a different dynamic between the members, and that’s okay. You can’t expect every one of your groomsmen to be alike, so you have so many to choose from. You have to pick out which ones seem like the perfect fit for your group, and you are all set!

How to pick the perfect groomsmen for your wedding

Introduce your groomsmen to your wedding guests

If you would like a personalised wedding magazine designed for your wedding, sharing the groomsmen who's who along with some fun facts, then please get in touch with liz@wedition.co.uk 

Alongside the meet the wedding party article, you could have your proposal story, history of your wedding venue, wedding details, games and quizzes, and you can include your stationery essentials such as the order of the day, order of service, readings and wedding menu.