How to remember lost loved ones on your wedding dayby Liz Gatherer
Your wedding day is a day full of love and laughter, it is a day where all your family and friends are brought together to celebrate a wonderful and happy time in your life. It is also a day of reflection, a day to remember those who are no longer with you. Whether your grief is very recent and raw, or you loved one passed many years ago and you are able to look back fondly on their life with joy at the happy memories, it may feel as though it could be very difficult to remember sad times on such a happy day without you yourself becoming very emotional.
We have a number of different ways for you to make your loved ones a part of your day, in a way that is right for you and your grief.
Bridal bouquet charm to remember lost loved ones on your wedding day
Include something of sentimental value to remember lost loved ones within the bridal bouquet, it may be a grandparent's or parent's wedding ring, a relative's bracelet or a bridal bouquet charm which contains a photo of your loved one. This is a particularly wonderful way to have the feeling that your lost loved one is walking down the aisle with you.
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A special space to remember lost loved ones on your wedding day
Prepare a space on your wedding day with photographs and a heartfelt message, you may choose a quiet spot within your venue so that family and friends can reflect away from the noise of the wedding reception. You may choose a particularly pretty spot in the grounds where there is a bench, this would be a way for you to remember your lost loved one in a more private manner on your wedding day. It would perhaps also be a nice touch to light a candle for each person that you would like to remember.
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Include your lost loved ones within your Wedition
There are many ways that you can include your lost loved ones within your Wedition. We’ll talk you through a number of real Wedition weddings to give you ideas and inspiration to remember your lost loved ones on your wedding day.
J&K’s first child passed away when she was just a few days old. It was very important to J&N that their daughter was remembered throughout their wedding day, there were many beautiful touches that they incorporated to make sure that their darling Darcy was remembered. We wrote a bespoke poem for J&N to include within their Wedition, alongside the poem was a photograph of Darcy’s hand and footprints, and the cherry blossom tree that grows alongside her ashes. J&N choose a pink wedding colour scheme with a theme of cherry blossom, this was reflected in their Wedition too and this colour scheme and theme was chosen to remember Darcy.
L&R had a fabulous quirky wedding at Buckingham Railway Centre and had an old fashioned railway theme running throughout their wedding day and their Wedition. L’s father had passed away a number of years earlier and L was looking for a way to make her father a very special part of the day. L’s mother wrote a poem from her husband's point of view and we included this poem on a dedicated page alongside the wedding party section of their Wedition.
E&K wanted to remember two very important ladies on their wedding day. E choose to have her bridal bouquet styled to match the one that her great grandmother had on her wedding day and K asked that key members of his family wore a yellow rose to remember his nan. These beautiful touches were explained within the “It’s all in the details” section of their Wedition so that their wedding guests would know how meaningful the flowers on the day were.
K&B chose a quiet spot in their venue to remember their lost loved ones on their wedding day. They had a photograph of each person and lit a candle for them. Read about their wedding here.
P&S had a sunny and bright wedding filled with sunflowers. The sunflowers were a poignant way to make sure that P’s mother was a part of their wedding day. P had sunflowers in her bouquet along with a bridal bouquet charm, there were sunflowers on the wedding cake and of course within their Wedition. We also included an in memory of page entitled “Our star in heaven” this was a poem especially chosen by P along with photographs of her mother and a heartfelt personal message from the bride and the groom to P’s mother. Read about their wedding here.
R&A married in the church where R's brother is buried. The couple took some time out after the ceremony to pay tribute to R's brother. Read about their wedding here.
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Wedition bride Z included her Nan's ring in her bouquet which was also her 'something old'.
Photo credit: Ideal Imaging by Alistair Jones
Many of our customers have chosen to have an “In memory of” page within their Wedition, this can feature photographs, readings, quotations and poetry.
If you would like to remember your lost loved one in a very special way on your wedding day then get in touch with Liz at firstname.lastname@example.org